Some topics which have been floating around in my head are
couples therapy due to my class and work where I am learning about it, I know of some interesting exercises you can try with your partner, and also some just to ask yourself before getting into a relationship, its fascinating how the model is based on the fact that "there are 6 people in the bed" with you and your partner, the couple, and their parents. Each of us are raised in a separate culture, whether it be an ethnic culture, or the unique environment and traditions of your nuclear and extended family, so in a relationship its never just the two people, but an entire understanding about and approach to this world....
I am thinking a lot about a professional life, and the transition to and role of life after school, life as a working person. In what ways are you defined by your profession? by your job? What becomes your uniform? and your title? where is the line between those defining you, are you one way because of the work you do, or do you do the work because of who and how you are? When you work a 9-5 are you living to work or working to live? is anyone truly happy in a cubicle? Where does the power come from, how and when can you earn and gain power? I've spent my life at the bottom of the professional totem pole and next year is the first time I won't have some type of disclaimer to my name such as "intern"...
Many of my close friends have moved away this year, so I have been thinking about friendship. What makes you close to someone and lose touch? Is it based on physical proximity or is it about an emotional level of intimacy which especially in this day and age is easy to maintain with various technology. In this day and age, kids may become friends while they grow up, but then many people leave their home for college, you make friends there, but they may return to where they are from or more often than not head to a new city or even country to pursue their career. There is not in fact, any finalized period in time where everyone will come back together. Its difficult to reconcile the fact that the young men and women who I used to live down the hall from, will from now on be seen only on special occasions and short visits. This is also an age where relationships begin to take on a different type of priority to friendships. Our roles as young adults are changing within the context of our family and how are our parents reacting to that fact that we are no longer children but are adults in our own right?
I also feel like a lot of my friends are doing big things. I have friends who are making it big in music, starting companies, starting non profits, designing and marketing products etc. and I want to do something big also! "Some day" has just about arrived and I wish I didn't have so much homework to do so that I could focus on accomplishing some of those plans because it doesn't seem like there really is much excuse to wait for a later date, when I graduate I suppose but still, I am getting restless and itchy to get started.
ok signing off but more to come and much to contemplate!
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