A friend of mine asked me the other day, if she should write a thesis in her senior year of college. I recommended that because she needed to ask that question, she should not write it.
I've heard people saying "I want a tattoo, I just don't know what I want" I would recommend against it.
People also say "I want a relationship" or even "I want to get married" I just don't know with or to Who.
I think the issue with all of these desires is that there is not actually something specific that one wants. One is therefore responding to societal pressures or social expectations. They are creating a fantasy of what they believe they should or could attain and what it will be like therefore they want it. I would be extremely wary in any of these situations however because the reality and fantasy are not connected.
On the idea of a thesis I advised; there should be a topic that you are so burning with passion about that you're writing a thesis because there is no other way for you to learn about that subject! Ask yourself, why do I feel I should write a thesis? Why do I and why don't I? It is a huge responsibility that one must fulfill on their own, unscheduled time and if it is not a topic you are fascinated by, it will be a burden.
On the concept of a tattoo that one is not sure about, this is a Permanent decision, ask yourself -what does it mean to have a tattoo? Why do I want a tattoo? Think about the ideas you have considered and what would that mean to have that on your body forever? I think you should only get a tattoo when there is something you want so badly to express as part of your human experience and your identity that there is no other forum than your own skin to share it!
On the idea of a relationship or marriage which is the permanent form; why do you feel you should be in it? What would it look like to be in it? Which of the expectations can be completed by 'a partner" anyone could fill that role? What is it about the idea of marriage that makes you think you want it? I look at it as; I should find a person that I enjoy so thoroughly that there is no other title for our behavior than "a relationship" and I would have to have a person that I beyond a shadow of a doubt wanted to spend the rest of my life with and felt that instinctual "knowing" only then would I consider the concept of a permanent union.
Ask yourself enough questions and answer yourself honestly, otherwise you are setting yourself up for disappointment and frustration.
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